Monday, September 7, 2009

Commemorating our passed ones

This time of the year a big lot among us commemorate our passed ones with a detailed list of rituals and ceremonies. I have witnessed the fanfare with which this is conducted, it almost becoming an occasion to be talked about and told to people around how much and what was done at the day of “shradh”. I think they do it out of awe and fear that something bad would befall if this is not done on a specific way and time and method. Our clever pundits have many such stories up their sleeves which they can instantly dish out about what happened when the family did not do the shradh of their parents. People who do not do these pujas are often criticised by the family and the relatives and blamed for any ills happening around them. I have also seen that these are the same people who probably ill-treated their folks when they were old and alive often blaming them for too much interference in their lives. And once they have passed away then all the love suddenly begins to bloom and show off. You can find that manifested in various forms – donations to the priests/temples in the name of their parents, building rooms, benches and whatever can be in the name of their parents.

Probably a simpler and a much easy form to remember your loved ones after they have passed away is to just think about them and be happy that you were able to do whatever was best possible to be done in those circumstances.
And the people who did nothing then now organize animated ceremonies and conduct elaborate rituals to demonstrate their love. It is like shutting the barn door after the horse has gone. Its pity to see our religious practices have fallen to this abysmal depth of illogical decay. And I hope people have the courage to see some sense.

13 comments:

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

rituals, ceremonies and above all Love - The most important.
- I agree.

Harshita said...

Hmm...

Like you said some ppl dont bother wen someone is alive and later they do all this... well, I have seen people who neither bother before death nor after it...

But, yes...we do perform Shraads for our grandparents and my dad's grandparents coz it is a practice followed in the family for years. :)

Gaurav Kant Goel said...

I agree to you.....

:)

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

Somewhere along the line, we've forgotten religion was made unto man, men not unto religion...there are many rituals and practices that seemingly defy reason but they're what give people peace of mind. It's inexplicable and unreasonable but that's the way humans work I guess...

Dhanya said...

Well... it's something which has been followed over the years... not exactly right, but nothing much we can do otherwise either :(

Amrita~Ams said...

hmmmmmmmmmm..sahi bola

Vishwanath Seshadri said...

Welcome back... after a very long time... where were you?

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Sneha said...

@ Hobo
Me too.:)

@harshita,
yeah world is full of all kinds.

@gaurav,
:)

Sneha said...

@ Bikram,

I agree with Marx "religion is the opium of masses".:)

@ Dhanya,

I believe that people may follow their rituals but not show off or perform hem out of fear.

Sneha said...

@ Amrita,
:)
@ Vishwanath Seshadri,
Thanks, was not actively blogging.:)

@simbatago

thx for tagging me.:)

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not intellectual enough said...

'It is like shutting the barn door after the horse has gone.'

True and brilliant!