Sunday, September 13, 2009
Monday, September 7, 2009
Commemorating our passed ones
This time of the year a big lot among us commemorate our passed ones with a detailed list of rituals and ceremonies. I have witnessed the fanfare with which this is conducted, it almost becoming an occasion to be talked about and told to people around how much and what was done at the day of “shradh”. I think they do it out of awe and fear that something bad would befall if this is not done on a specific way and time and method. Our clever pundits have many such stories up their sleeves which they can instantly dish out about what happened when the family did not do the shradh of their parents. People who do not do these pujas are often criticised by the family and the relatives and blamed for any ills happening around them. I have also seen that these are the same people who probably ill-treated their folks when they were old and alive often blaming them for too much interference in their lives. And once they have passed away then all the love suddenly begins to bloom and show off. You can find that manifested in various forms – donations to the priests/temples in the name of their parents, building rooms, benches and whatever can be in the name of their parents.
Probably a simpler and a much easy form to remember your loved ones after they have passed away is to just think about them and be happy that you were able to do whatever was best possible to be done in those circumstances.
And the people who did nothing then now organize animated ceremonies and conduct elaborate rituals to demonstrate their love. It is like shutting the barn door after the horse has gone. Its pity to see our religious practices have fallen to this abysmal depth of illogical decay. And I hope people have the courage to see some sense.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Shankar Halwai in Mathura
Fond memories of yesterdays keep visiting you as you go along in life. That's what I realized when i stumbled upon a you tube video about Shankar halwai. I have visited this shop numerous times and it was almost second nature to eat at this place while visiting the Holi-gate, which is the heart of the city. This is one of the oldest shops in Mathura and offers you a complete pure vegetarian food at astonishingly modest prices that can be afforded by the most ordinary Aam adami. And all this doesn't make the food any less tastier, in fact this food can be one of the most mouth watering north Indian food that anybody can have or boast of. Another thing to note is that all their preparations are completely devoid of garlic and onions.
Saturday, August 1, 2009
Friendship and the bane of adulthood
I remember as a child i had a lot of friends and i didn't need any reason to make friends. And they remain friends in spite of any arguments,difference of opinion or even occasional fights. The sooner these differences appeared the sooner they vanished and the friendship remained without any scars or remnants of these differences. We were quick to appease and pacify an angry friend. There were no ego and personal pride involved in all this.
However things changed as i grew older. Probably all of us became more worldly wise, street smart and savvy. We begin to have personality clashes and yearned for more private space in our lives. The demands of our personal and professional life has taken over most of the available time and we have led small excuses come in the way of making more friends and sustaining the old ones.
I seriously lament all this around me and wish the things were the same as they were during my childhood days.

